Genuine Leadership Humility:
Conversations Matter!

Leadership-Humility-Conversations-MatterWhen it comes to genuine leadership humility, conversations matter!

When I talk with my coaching clients on this subject, I find that many leaders still believe workplace humility is a detriment, not an advantage. Some believe that authority, power and even intimidation are best to run organizations and achieve results. Being understood is more important than understanding—at least, that’s the message they are sending to others.

What about you? Do your employees view you as a humble leader, or a bit more…egotistical?

You can assess your leadership humility by answering a few questions. (Consider working with a trusted colleague or coach to ensure you see yourself clearly.)

  • Do you frequently lose your temper? Perhaps you’re short with people or pressing your points without regarding theirs. Take stock of how people respond to you. Is there an issue with your approach? If your employees try to avoid you or resist bringing up difficult topics, you may be overbearing. Focus on being calm and collected, and recognize the harm caused by a lack of kindness or empathy. Put yourself in the shoes of a person confronted with your gruff approach.
  • Are you a focused listener? Are people frustrated because they can’t complete their sentences with you? Do you make sense of their points, or have you missed part of the conversation? Do people’s comments indicate that you don’t understand their perspective? Practice better listening skills by eliminating distractions and making a deliberate effort to grasp everything someone is saying. Imagine being quizzed on the conversation to see if you’ve caught every point. Ask questions to verify what you were told. (If this embarrasses you, use it as an incentive to listen better.)
  • Are you too focused on your own image? Do you build yourself up at others’ expense? Do their victories end up on your bragging list to impress your boss? Do you give your people a chance to present how they accomplished their tasks? Great leaders don’t need to grab credit. They earn much more respect when their people get the credit. Advance your reputation through your team’s exemplary track record.

What do you think? What do these questions reveal about your conversations and level of humility? Are you sending the message that understanding is just as, or even more important, than being understood?  You can call me at 704-827-4474; let’s talk. And as always, I can be reached here or on LinkedIn.

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