3 Steps to Rewrite Your Faulty Stories

What kinds of stories do you tell yourself about your work? Are you really a charming prince, or a lowly frog? Do a reality check to see if what you say excuses your actions, blames outside forces, or inspires you to take on new behaviors:

  • Does the story you tell yourself about your work feel right for you?
  • Is it a good fit somewhere between reality and the way you want things to be?
  • What actions do they inspire you to take?
  • How do you feel when you speak about work with someone?
  • How do you feel about the results you are achieving?
  • Can you honestly say your stories are leading you closer to your dreams?

Answering these questions allows you to uncover how your internal stories influence your behavior.

You can always rewrite your narratives. Dr. Jim Loehr, performance expert and author of The Power of Story says that in most cases, our faulty stories need some serious editing. Here’s how…

3 Steps to Rewrite Your Story

  1. Make a list of your current stories. Identify the areas where what you recount is clearly hurting you. We talk about work, family, health, goals, beliefs.
  2. Articulate, as clearly as possible, a story that isn’t working for you. Are you, for example, rationalizing a behavior or scapegoating a colleague? Are you bitter or boastful? The things you say should be as authentic as possible.
  3. To rewrite it, first identify its faulty elements. Ask yourself these three questions:
    a. Does the story reflect the truth?
    b. Will it take me where I want to go in life (while allowing me to remain true to my core values)?
    c. Does it stimulate me to take action?

Loehr says a constructive story contains three key components:

  • Purpose
  • Truth
  • Hope-filled action

If your story lacks one or more of these elements, it remains flawed and unworkable. Only a purposeful, truthful and hope-driven story will inspire you to unleash your intrinsic energy and achieve what you want from life.

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