Competitive Arguing: Mojo Zapper

Arguing happens anytime you put a group of intelligent, successful people into a room and give them a problem to solve.

It also happens simply because people have egos, and it’s human nature to compete with other members of the tribe.

Some competitive executives love a good argument because it’s a chance to show their sharp wit. It’s a verbal form of backyard fist-fighting. People are people, however, and pokes and jabs can often go too far with consequences to relationships, emotions, and creativity.

When that happens, we can lose our mojo, as well as our focus and concentration on the things that really matter.

Arguing can put our mojo at risk by needlessly creating enemies instead of allies. Many arguments are traps in which we fight to improve our status among the tribe, rather than to solve a problem for the greater good.

For example, here’s an argument trap that’s easy to fall into but that does nothing more than zap your spirit:

Let me get the last word: Everyone has opinions and enjoys expressing them. In fact, we feel it’s our right to do so. Sometimes, however, we just can’t stop. We have to have the last word. It can be very hard for smart people to “just let it go.”

Next time you listen in on an argument (or a “discussion”), observe how some people need to have the last word. Next, observe the effects on other people’s energy. Is this something you really admire?

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